Oribi Mom: Let’s Talk About Invasion

The birds strip my poor little palm trees, and the moles keep pushing up my groundcovers and trees before they can get going. It’s wild.

February 21, 2021 
Let’s talk about invasion. Maybe not the Star Wars (or Occupy Cape Town mansions) type, though.
I mean lantana, for example, the invasive weed that’s ruining every piece of tilled land where something isn’t planted right away. The butterflies love its pink, orange, and yellow buds, and the birds drop the seeds everywhere (which is how it spreads like wildfire).
As a budding gardener who’s just getting into the nitty-gritties, this weed is only one contender for my wrath in Oribi Gorge. Blackjacks and sweethearts (those semi-circle burrs) come in a hot second. The bunnies are trying to help me clear those, but it’s an uphill battle most summers.

It Isn’t Just a Weed Invasion

Between the monkeys, chickens, rabbits, and Southern Boubous, my seedlings and succulents often lose their will to live or multiply. The birds strip my poor little palm trees, and the moles keep pushing up my groundcovers and trees before they can get going. It’s wild this invasion.
What to do when hours and hours of back-breaking work and careful cultivation has come to naught? It’s a relevant question in a global pandemic, not just for those who took up gardening during South Africa’s perpetual lockdowns. As a sleep-deprived working mom of two, my personal choice is often a mini-breakdown with tears.
The exhausted cry of the mom accompanies out-loud roaring at indignant Vervet monkeys as these relentless opportunists scamper back over the fence after decimating my vegetable garden or blooms. My toddler now imitates this pathetic roaring at will. It’s quite awkward when it is directed at passing tractors or an unsuspecting visitor at our coffee table.

It Isn’t Forever Because Seasons Pass

All that sweat, and real blood from stupid lantana thorns, and what is left in the soil? A lonely stalk that looks nothing like a cabbage, butternut, marigold, or echeveria. It’s infuriating. It’s also illuminating.
A certain beloved Gogo down the road has taught me an invaluable lesson about the things under my care: everything needs pruning. When you care for the land, it responds in kind. You need to chop, hack, and discard the dead and dying plants.
Cut the beautiful hedge down to knee-height, and see what happens in the growing season next year. Don’t be stingy about the damage, either. The more you prune, the more beautiful the development. The more you cut down the wayward tendrils, the stronger the bushy blooms are in the sunshine.
Jesus pruned the vine, too. Now, I understand why.
When last did you prune your own expectations, commitments, and bad habits? Lockdown has given many of us these mini-breakdown moments and we’re not yet out of the woods. Go on, test your roots and clear away the excess that has invaded time, money, relationships, and life choices. You may just find life more beautiful.
Also, you may need to get a dog to keep the monkey invasion at bay.
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Oribi Mom: Should I Share This? (Please Share This)

Anyone can give an opinion on any topic using whatever platform they desire, including irritating 20 minute WhatsApp voice notes from ‘real doctors’

 

February 11, 2021

I have heard complaints recently on the ridiculous amount of fake news, links, spam, and hackable content floating around the interwebs.Covid-21 is obviously creating ample opportunity for people to come up with ingenious ways of getting under our skin. Links and videos from ‘a friend of a friend’ are ubiquitous.

Anyone can give an opinion on any topic using whatever platform they desire, including irritating 20 minute WhatsApp voice notes from ‘real doctors’.

Do you frequently experience rolling eyes and exasperated sighs as you try to share these links about what is really going on in the world? 

Questions To Ask Before You Share That Link

Before we get into the tips for sharing digitally, there’s a caveat. Ask yourself a question before you click share: “Why do I want to duplicate this information?” That’s the first secret to whether you should share what’s on your screen, or permanently delete it.

  • How does it make you feel?
  • Does it seem credible?
  • Is it a warning?
  • Doesn’t it seem too good to be true?
  • Would I want someone I love to tell me about this? Why?
  • Has it changed my perspective or behaviour?

These, and many other questions, should precede any action on your part, but don’t press the button until you’re clear on why you want to forward a snippet to others.

Yes, I Want To Share It

If you’re sure you want to forward the information, voice note, link, or news, here are five tips on how to do that without losing face:

1. Fake or True

If you see something dramatic or shocking, check it first. Go to sites like snopes.com, search for your story. Is it on the ‘fake’ list?

If the information has been shared on several news sites with different statistics, numbers, dates, names, or orders of events, don’t share it.

2. Motives Are Everything

Who is sharing the information? Is it current? Look at the date of the social media post or article – was it a missing person from 2016 who has already been found? Don’t share it.

Why would someone bring it up again now? Do you even know that person or are they a social media shadow? Why do you think they would be sharing it here, at this time, on this platform, to this audience? If you don’t know the answer, don’t share it.

3. Don’t Go Down the Rabbit Hole

Read the article or listen to the voice note right the way through. Did you grow bored halfway? Don’t share it.

Did you skip the article, react to the headline, and get stuck in the explosive comments section? Don’t share it.

4. Find Support

If it is medical information, it should be peer reviewed or well-supported by credible, medical people. Is it a lone doctor on a mission without facts that can be verified?

It is okay to be different, but nobody is smart enough to stumble upon life-changing information that is not supported by any other credible source anywhere in the world.

5. Tell Them Why

Before you forward anything, type the reasons why you think it applies to the person with whom you want to share it. Also, type what it is, and the bottom line. Is that too much effort? Don’t share it.

Discernment is a virtue in the digital domain. The more rubbish you share, the less people listen.

If you’ve understood your own reaction, checked it isn’t fake, read the whole thing, verified the facts, and thought about the author’s motives, and written your own reasons for forwarding it… share it.

If not, maybe it’s best to connect in another way, like sending a funny GIF, meme or video. Better yet, have dinner together and turn off the Wi-Fi.

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Oribi Mom: Must Love Snakes (Yuck!)

I have two small children, and two fluffy white bunnies hopping about the garden. And snakes.

The other day I walked into the nursery to change a nappy and there was another green snake slithering over the baby’s sock drawer.

I had a good look, heart pumping, and phone out to capture a fuzzy photograph for posterity (and Facebook).

Then I closed the door quickly so that it didn’t find its way around the rest of the house.

When we came back with a bucket and tongs, it had disappeared.

The western Natal green snake, exploring the things in the baby’s room.

It was just a Western Natal Green snake, probably the one that lives in the spiky tree right off the porch. What if it wasn’t, though? Snakes are daily features in Oribi Gorge.

A scorching day brings gorgeous cobalt skies and blows away the rolling mist, but it also beckons to the creatures that keep this ecosystem thriving.

We have all sorts on the doorstep, venomous and harmless, which is why my children wear gumboots in the yard.

The deadliest are the black mambas, boomslang, vine snakes, puff adders, and Mozambique spitting cobras, but there’s a long list for herpers to tick off.

Natal black snakes are common but rarely seen, and night adders seem to find my house the most attractive place on earth – I have been bitten once, and my poor builder twice!

There are also perilous green mambas, though not endemic to Oribi Gorge.

I’ve no idea why someone would put us in that danger, but these ones are dropped here from all your coastal ‘rescues’ to upset the balance of nature (and give this Oribi Mom slithery nightmares).

We live at peace with the vast number of harmless or mildly venomous snakes that keep our rat and frog population in check.

There are feisty and fearless Heralds, lightning-fast grass snakes, and the super green climbers, like the dainty spotted bush snakes with their orange eyes and pretty black spots.

I wasn’t even going to mention the python population as those are ‘safe,’ right? (not in Francistown, Botswana, apparently). I’d rather have the egg-eater that visited our chicken coop – no teeth or venom!

A Wild and Beautiful Life With Snakes on the Farm

I have two small children, and two fluffy white bunnies hopping about the garden.

Many people are horrified by our close encounters, like the huge baboon spider in the bathroom, harmless but hairy.

For two days, it kept watch over the toilet paper, which lay unused until he moved off.

Scorpions abound, but most are harmless to humans, though the sting is like fire.

This is Africa, but not always that wildness we associate with Jock of the Bushveld characters. It’s also home.

Perhaps, this is how we are meant to live – a bit of healthy awareness never hurt anyone who walked closely with the living things of the earth.

So far, it’s working for us, even when lines are crossed by cheeky green snakes in my baby’s room.

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